The "S" and "O" stages.

ANDY TIMMONS.


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Decided to share this since it's the freshmen harvest season.

"S" which is defined as "Surface".
"O" which is defined as "Open".
Basically two of the three stages involved in evax.

1) How to make the first interaction not awkward?

• Firstly , don't think or feel weird ourselves as it the way we think and feel would be the way we react.
• Be friendly and show sincerity . Be natural ( Be yourself ).
• Observe the body language of the person ( e.g. Looking elsewhere, showing no interest )
• Probe into the person's interests and talk about them.
• Start off with funny/embarassing moments we've had before ( Open Their Hearts )
• Find a common topic.
• Prepare things in mind beforehand to engage them in the conversation if you are not a chatty person.
• Be quick to spot their interest and talk about it.

2) What to talk about?

• Food
• TV Shows
• School ( teachers , funny happenings etc.)
• Fashion
• Games
• Anime
• Favourite songs/bands/actors/actresses
• Family
• Football
• Holidays ( what we did previously or planning to do in/for our holidays)

3) How to click with a person?

• Try to find a common interest.
• Give attention , make him/her feel special. ( Listening attentively , looking interested )
• Be open.
• Doing things that the person likes together.

4) How to get people to open up?

• Firstly , we ourselves have to be open with the person. Openness breeds Openness.
• Give them a treat , buy them something.
• Spend informal and fun times together. ( E.g. Sports , have meals together , watch movies )

5) How to prevent people to get " turned off " when they hear the word "church" or "Jesus" ?

• Most importantly and firstly , make sure you connect the person to be close with you or feel comfortable with you before introducing church to him/her.
• Be sincere and genuine.
• Try to ask why they feel certain way - Another bridge to spiritual conversation.